As a writer of—I’m told and believe—good books, I hold the belief that all the ingredients necessary to succeed are out there waiting for us. I believe we don’t ever have to fear losing a struggle or an opportunity. And surely neither do we, because of fear, have to behave unprofessionally or unethically as we witness too often in the recent past.
Studies of successful people report that they approach life from a point of view that no matter what happens their sense of themselves—their self-image—is unharmed. They are invulnerable. And they come from Abundance—the idea that there are always more opportunities out there.
Okay, I hear you saying, “You’re telling me that these people never get rejected … never fall on hard times?” No! I’m telling you that when they got rejected, experienced pain, fell on hard times (and they did, as we all have) they did not take rejection personally. They did not decide they were bad or a failure just because people rejected them. They did not give up when things seemed scarce.
Way too many people today see themselves as vulnerable—“Oh woe is me…” So sorry, but I have no time for a “pity party” or to associate with those who are mired in them. When we make mistakes, fail, or get hit with disapproval quickly and forcefully remind ourselves that we as individuals are indeed invulnerable. That is to say that our value as people cannot be affected one way or the other by what others say about us or do to us.
As writers we have the corner on rejection—they even have a standard form to inform us with!
It is our attitude that makes the difference in how we feel—and ultimately how we perform. A sense of personal well-being and a sense of abundance are key to our growth and ultimate success. When we find ourselves in the hole we first drop the shovel, then climb the steep side to a point where we can begin to put our fears behind us and look for the opportunities again.
Opportunities are interim targets in our life goals. My advice is not to look at the opportunity—but to look through it to the possibilities it promises. So as we begin this New Year, look up and out at the world around you and see the abundance of opportunities it holds for those who will take responsibility for themselves, believe in their strengths and seek their goals. You will get wins. And remember that being a winner does not require someone else to lose. Reach out as you climb and bring others in to help you, and to be helped by you.